Mum has five questions. We talk about them a lot. This is how they go:
1. What’s the matter with me?
“You’ve got a problem with your short-term memory,” I say. Sometimes Mum asks me if it’s dementia. So I explain it’s Alzheimer's - a type of dementia. “I hate the D word,” says Mum. “It makes me sound demented - mad and stupid.”
I tell Mum she’s none of these things. That she’s still perfectly intelligent, that everything she says is completely reasonable. Which is true.
Sometimes we talk about intelligent, reasonable people who have also been diagnosed with Alzheimer's - Alison Holst, Iris Murdoch, Margaret Thatcher. “Margaret Thatcher!” says Mum. “I’m not too sure about her.”
2. What’s happened to my house?
“We sold it. All of us decided together, us kids and you.” I tell her it was too hard to keep it going, a big old house in the country. With a huge garden to look after. Then I explain it’s been more than six years since she moved out. “Amazing, isn't it?”
“Yes,” says Mum. “It certainly is.”
Sometimes Mum asks what’s happened to her things. I tell her we went through everything that was precious and made sure someone in the family would look after it. “You young people can’t imagine what that’s like,” says Mum. “It’s a very strange feeling.”
3. What can I do to get better?
“I don't think the memory problem is curable,” I say. “But I’m pretty sure you can feel a lot better than you do right at this moment.”
Then Mum asks me what’s needed for her to get better. We talk about staying active, saying yes to everything - walks, trips out with other residents, knitting projects, doing the crossword and being social. About keeping body and mind active to improve her mood. “Right,” says Mum. “I really need to lift my game.”
4. Do I have a future?
“What exactly do you mean?” I ask. Mum knows I’m stalling. She tells me she needs hope. So we talk about what she’s looking forward to - next Wednesday’s drive with Rachel, grandchildren coming to stay, Louise coming over from Australia ...
5. What’s the matter with me?
“You have a problem with your short-term memory …” Then Mum and I talk a bit more. After a while I say, “Shall we go out?”
“Can we?” says Mum.
She never turns me down.
Just read Family Care Mag and then your Blog. Your Mum could be my Mum at the moment but I am grateful for your music idea. How hard was it to get the Doctor to take your Mum off her medication?
ReplyDeleteForgot to say that we have Mum living with us and she has Stage 3 Dementia so we await a place in a Dementia Unit to come available because life is getting 'tougher'
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ReplyDeleteI suffered from this horrible syndrome (ALZHEIMER'S DISEASE)...and it was horrible...for the past 3 years this has taken over pretty much all of my walking moments along with other medical issues. My family/friends have been with me through it all. But Today I am pain free!! I can't even believe how this all happened...I am just as amazed as, my family/friends are...none of us can believe how long I suffered and now in literally a matter of months I am completely pain free.
How? Well let me tell you.....Months ago my Friend told me about something called ZOMO HERBS....I heard him, but I didn't listen.....I went on just suffering along, Then My friend Raval, talked to my wife about it one night, when I was at my lowest point.....just wanting to give up...this wasn't the way I wanted to live...always in constant pain..Raval said, I will send you ZOMO HERBS..... I started using it and the rest is history my friends, There was a light at the end of the Tunnel... The results were immediate, it did take my pain away, but not completely....it was not until I upped the dosage to 3 times daily that I saw complete results.....NO PAIN.....I became so thrilled over the results that I decide to share my testimony.....If I can help even one person and that person helps one person and so on...we can all be out of pain and regaining our lives back....sound good? I have my life back!!!! I want you to have yours back too! Simply try to reach the doctor on (charantova@gmail.com) for more information about his treatment process or how to get his medicine.
In my own case it was just over four years ago when my Mum began to sound different on the phone. She lived back East with my siblings and my husband and I were living on the West coast and in phone calls it became apparent that my Mum's voice no longer had the same tones of excitement and humor that she used to; and instead it was very flat. At the same time she began to tell us about a situation at work that just didn't seem possible; she was complaining that a group of fellow workers were conspiring to get her. Although Mum had much academic success as a teenager, her behavior had become increasingly odd during the past years. She quit seeing her friends and no longer seemed to care about her appearance or social pursuits. She began wearing the same clothes each day and seldom bathed. She lived with several family members but rarely spoke to any of us. Obviously this whole story seemed very unbelievable and we sensed something was wrong but had no clue as to what it could be. We recommended that my Mum quit her job and look for something else - as we began to wonder if she had a "mental breakdown" and would get better once out of the stressful job situation.
ReplyDeleteIn the case of Mum, she was having persecurtory delusions, auditory hallucinations and negative symptoms that had lasted for at least Three years. All of these symptoms fit with a diagnosis of Dementia. Her story reflects a common case, in which a high-functioning young adult goes through a major decline in day-to-day skills. Although family and friends may feel this is a loss of the person they knew, the illness can be treated and a good outcome is possible as it all got better when we started using a herbal medicine for her through Aparajita.
My recommendation to people who are either wondering if they have DEmentia or wondering if a friend or loved one has Dementia should contact (aparajitatan@gmail.com). I think one of our key problems was that we didn't do this in the early days of my Mum's illness as we never thought of a natural alternative for her.
DOES HERBS WORK FOR DEMENTIA?
ReplyDeleteThis was the same question that prompted me to read further a testimony I saw on a blog. I would like to tell a story - hoping it will be useful to others - of my struggles and achievements with Dementia. I was diagnosed a little over 4 years ago, No doctors I met have any treatment or even suggestions apart western medications. I even sought advice on Youtube, to no avail. After using the conventional approach to medication treatment without improvement. I am glad something happens fast. There have been suicides due to people not being able to continue on living with the endless memory challenges. It is horrible. I learned about Dr. charanjit herbal medicine that works effectively for me without any negative effects. I have returned back to my normal life and I hope that the symptoms do not return again, It really helped me! If you have Dementia kindly contact Dr. Charanjit for help and necessary solution (charantova@gmail.com)
I was initially very hesitant to discuss my Alzheimer but i just hope it can still help someone. I feel this will be very important information for all Alzheimer patients, because the most violent element in society today is ignorance. Be it any condition, a healthy diet and natural medicine is a road to fast recovery. I had suffered Alzheimer for many years, I fought for proper medical care and all form of humane treatment with little improvement I went through many sleepless nights and periods of intense grief, as do most families. I was recommended by a friend to use ZOMO herbs for my Alzheimer with high hope and assurance. I finally feel my illness is gone with no more symptoms. What makes night within us may leave stars. The herbal Doc email ID charantova@gmai.com
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ReplyDeleteI can’t forget in a hurry my Mom's horrible years of fight with Mental ailment (Alzheimer). My Mom got really sick around Christmas that year. When I saw her in the hospital with all those tubes, I just lost it. I got so hysterical that I had to be escorted out. Soon after that, I got into that altercation with my neighbor and was sent to jail. When I got out of jail, Her symptoms were acting up and I felt so angry. Dad had already taken her to a state psychiatric hospital. I was really nervous, but I talked to a psychiatrist there who made me feel comfortable. For the first time, she opened up about what she was experiencing—the voices, not being able to remember things, the paranoia. She said, “Your mom is battling Alzheimer.” I didn’t even know what that meant.
ReplyDeleteHe suggested that when she got out of the hospital and off the treatments she was taking there, we try a new treatment for Alzheimer. After weighing the risks and benefits, we both agreed the treatment, given through monthly injections, might help control her symptoms. Meanwhile, I made friends, and gained insight into her illness. During the week, there were movies, cooking classes and education sessions about her disease—basically, activities to help people like her get back into society. I learned about Alzheimer and what some of her triggers were. All told, she stayed there for two months and we left, I was taking her for doctor’s appointments and grocery shopping. It was hard, especially when her birthday passed, I still helped her walk, fix her food and dress her which made me sad because she was very active at 69 until the illness struck her.
I came across a herbal medication sometimes last year called zomo but before we started the treatment, we started a day rehabilitation program, and also started the new medication with zomo. I was working hard to achieve my care goals by following the treatment plan. Her symptoms got under control within three months, as she started feeling better. First she regained interest in the things she used to enjoy, like calling/visiting our family and friends for lunch and going for walks in the park and grocery shopping. I will never forget what I went through, or what it took for her to get here. I don’t take any of it for granted. I consider myself an advocate for people who don’t have any knowledge about this herbal medicine. To anyone who’s taken the time to read this that may be struggling with this awful ailment (Alzheimer), reach out, share, I guarantee you reach out to charantova@gmail.com, and know, that as lonely as you may feel, as hopeless as you believe things are, please know, that there are so many patients out there going through same and you are never alone! reach out to him so you could share your own testimony to let others know there is hope.